Holiday Reminders: Do not pressure, harass, questions, or judge those who choose not to have contact with their family. This is typically an incredibly painful choice they’ve had to make. It is already going to be difficult enough to manage the holidays without…

Searching for EMDR Consultation? I’m an Certified EMDR Therapist & Consultant. I am part of Precision EMDR Academy which is a training program dedicated to training clinicians to do this important work with the complex, attachment trauma client that most of us see in our…

Time orientation skills involve reminding yourself that you are in the here-and-now, rather than in the there-and-then. There are several categories of time orientation skills: time, distance, power, choice, & comfort. Focusing on the categories of power & choice is about reminding yourself of all…

Healing is not about never being triggered again. This is because bad things, scary things, and worrisome things continue to occur in our lives. If we are healing, we acknowledge this fact of life. Otherwise we are practicing toxic positivity. Healing is being able to…

I’ve spent a lot of time recently talking about grounding as a coping strategy for trauma and dissociation. Now I want to focus on the strategy of time orientation. Trauma time refers to the experience of feeling like you are still in the trauma (there-and-then),…

A message during for those feeling overwhelmed, sad, angry, grieving and/or hopeless right now: Allow yourself space to feel your feelings and honor them as they are valid and need to be felt. AND….then we can look at how to cope and feel better, after…