Max McNown’s A Lot More Free

The lyrics from Max McNown’s A Lot More Free really speaks to how it can feel once we fully accept and embrace the reality of who our parents or toxic partners are and have been.

Once we have done work to let go of our illusions, the relentless hope that thee people will live up to who we want or need them to be, then we can often feel more hurt, but more free.

So often it is the potential we see in these others that keeps pulling us back into unhealthy relationships and dynamics. Once we can truly see people for who they are now, and how they treat us, we are often more free to let them go and walk away if that’s what we choose.

My only critique is a gentle reminder that it’s not true that only time can heal these hurts and these wounds, and that time is often not sufficient to heal these types of wounds.  That healing takes work, and time can assist giving use the emotional space to do that work.