Trauma

The ACES study was conducted here in San Diego between 1995-97 and was spearheaded by Vincent Felitti, MD. This study was conducted with 17,000+ participants and clearly demonstrated a link between childhood abuse, neglect and other household challenges with adult health and well-being.  What I…

I like this quote because it speaks to a number of things that I see in trauma work every day. It is not uncommon for people to remember their traumatic experiences in a very detached clinical way, and the work we do will be to…

Ever heard the saying Sticks and stone can break my bones but words can never hurt me? Well, it is totally wrong. Words can and do hurt. And this idea that they don’t perpetuates a lot of further harm to victims an downplaying the effects…

10/9 quote pink square abusers are terrible to everyone (abused tend to get into abusive rel We sometimes do a disservice to tell survivors that those who’ve been abused are more likely to find themselves in an abusive relationship again. This can make some folks…

Trauma recovery is not always about getting back to who you were before trauma. For some folks there was no before to get back to. There is much truth to the idea that healing in trauma is getting back to who you were before, unlearning…

As Judith Herman warned back in 1992, “It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear and speak no evil. The victim, on the…