Quotes

Some quotes I’ve recently read that spoke to me and I think will speak to you…

That’s the power of words: twenty-six little letters can paint a whole universe. -Jay Kristoff in Godsgrave

Words carry so much power, they can inspire, they can harm, they can affirm, and they can deny.

A pity then, that the good waste their time fearing that they’re evil, and the evil waste no time at all. -Shalini Abeysekara in This Blade of Ours

So often traumatized folks wonder and worry about if they are being good people or if they are continuing to harm others as they have been harmed. But those who are truly evil, toxic and abusive typically don’t waste time worry about this issue.

This doesn’t mean that you won’t cause harm as you learn and grow, as you get triggered, etc. But the fact that you worry and think about it is evidence that you are not bad.

Accept the pain, but do not accept that you deserved it. -Brandon Sanderson

This is the duality at the heart of healing. We must accept the pain and how we’ve adapted to it in our lives. It is only once we truly accept where we are at that we will have the ability to change.

But just because it’s our responsibility to accept this pain is in no way an indictment that we deserved the wound. I do not believe you ever deserved this wounding.

In every breath, hope abides. – -Jay Kristoff in Godsgrave

As long there is breath in my lungs, there is hope that things can change, improve, grow and heal.-

Concepts and definitions can be extremely useful, but they can also become barriers rather than bridges. Dolores Mosquera in Trauma-Informed Relational Approach for Dissociative Parts

Again, words matter, but they are also limited by our human understanding and shaped by the systems in which they are developed. I help people obtain diagnoses they need to access care, this is important. But it is also a way of creating a barrier or hoops for people to jump through in order to get that care, and that is something that is problematic about our system.