I like this quote because it speaks to a number of things that I see in trauma work every day.
It is not uncommon for people to remember their traumatic experiences in a very detached clinical way, and the work we do will be to connect to the feelings and bodily sensation associated with those experiences.
I am so pleased that we are talking more and more openly about traumatic experiences, and the things we didn’t experience in our childhoods that we should have (love, patience, attunement) and the things we did experience that we shouldn’t have (physical, verbal, sexual or emotional abuse).
Because so often these experiences have been only personal and private, and if that’s the way it needs to be for you that’s okay. But allowing these experiences to only be private leaves survivors feeling isolated, weird and alone.
And in our society it allows us to pretend that these experiences are infrequent and do not have real, physical, emotional and psychological consequences.
So, to those of you out there suffering in silence, with wounds that you question the validity of, and who feel alone: I see you. I hear you. I believe you. You are not alone and healing is possible.
I apologize for the lack of citation, I keep a lot of quotes from things I’ve read and sometimes the citation for who said it or where I read it gets lost. If someone knows please share it.