Anxious-Avoidant attachment develops when caregivers are chronically rejecting or withdrawn. This can happen when there are mental health issues in the caregiver, such as depression.
In this situation the child learns to minimize or suppress their emotions as a form of self-preservation. These children tend to develop beliefs that their needs won’t be met so it is better to simply not have needs and not to not expect too much from others.
These kids grow into adults who tend to minimize the negative experiences from childhood. They are likely to see themselves as strong and independent and may not be unaware of their past needs or distress connected to their caregivers.
When they become parents, these folks tend to avoid or reject closeness as well because it is uncomfortable and perceived as unimportant.
They are likely to avoid intimacy or vulnerability in romantic relationships, and tend to be mistrusting, as they did not learn that important others can be trusted. They tend to be self-reliant, distant, and to minimize any emotional needs in themselves and others.