Trauma

I have never understood the idea that bravery or strength is about being hard, without pain, without fear, without softness. Why would we need bravery or strength unless we already had fear and pain and softness? Being truly seen, warts and all, takes bravery. For…

This is so true, isn’t it? Healing and growth are totally like this. This is why, periodically stopping to actually look back and admire how much growth has happened is incredibly important. That is why bringing attention to those small changes as they occur in…

The holidays are hard for many people. It is inescapable, all of the focus on family, family togetherness, family gatherings, love of family….it’s in commercials, TV shows, movies, social media, at the grocery store, on the radio, on billboards, it is everywhere. But what if…

It comes as a surprise to some of my clients that as we process their traumatic experiences, they sometimes find that they are able to remember positive experiences as well. This is not a guaranteed experience, but it happens often. The idea is that these…

So often I find in working with attachment trauma, that my clients feel that everyone does indeed matter. Well, everyone except themselves. Children who grow up in homes where they cannot be recognized for who they truly are learn to suppress or hide that quite…

10/26 pic Experience has taught me that you cannot value dreams according to the odds of their coming true. Their real value is in stirring within us the will to aspire. As we come to the end of Hispanic Heritage Month, I thought I would…