Forgiveness is not about letting the wrong doing off of the hook or saying that what they did was okay. And it is definitely not about allowing that bad or abusive behavior to continue.
It is about not continuing to allow what happened to negatively impact you or define your life. It is about putting down this burden.
But I think we give victims, and particularly female/femme victims the message that they should forgive or have to forgive in order to heal. I think this is detrimental. And it is not required for healing.
What is required for healing is forgiving yourself. Forgive yourself for anything that you may blame yourself for in what happened. That is the key to healing.