I may not get over it, but I can get through it.
Could we all just agree to stop telling each other to get over it? Please?
In my experience, the vast majority of people would get over it if they could. No matter how big or small the trauma was, no one wants to be living with that day in and day out. And if people could simply get over it, then there would be very little need for my profession.
But things are rarely that simple. But the past will often not let go until we have learned what we need to learn from it. And sometimes it takes meeting with a neutral third party like a therapist to help folks figure out what that lesson is and how to move forward so that they can get through it to the other side.
In my experience EMDR Therapy is a very effective and efficient tool to help get through to the other side.