I often hear people lament that they are not further along in life. They are as mature as they think they should be or healed as much as they should be. I understand the desire to be better and to have achieved our goals already. But healing and growth take time, time that can’t be forced or skipped over. You deserve the best possible outcome, so do the work. Don’t get discouraged, keep going! Some people are able to do this work and this healing on their own. Others need help. Especially when there has been a childhood of abuse, chaos or neglect, healing is complicated and often benefits from professional help. As an EMDR trained therapist I have seen the amazing changes and improvement that it facilitates.