So often people feel the need to put up this front so that others will not know they feel like they’re dying on the floor.
And sometimes there is even a front that they put up for themselves. If they don’t cry then they won’t feel.
Although we all do this from time to time, if this is a chronic way that the person goes through life, then there may have been developmental or attachment trauma. They may have learned in their home environment that they would not get their needs met if they showed them, or even worse, that they would be actively hurt if they showed they were in need.
If they chronically feel like they don’t want to cry for fear they won’t stop or that feeling is just too much, that can also be a sign of trauma.
It is okay to have needs. It is okay to have feelings. There are ways to cope and if you did not learn that in childhood it is not too late. It is never too late to make the needed changes so that you can live the life that you want.