Quote by Gloria Steinem

It is natural to want to be in relationship, we are born wired for connection and attachment.

But sometimes this takes on an unhealthy tone, a tone of desperation.

And sometimes this can be the result of attachment trauma and a resulting insecure attachment style.

Sometimes looking for the right person is about finding a person to rescue them, because the family they come from did not meet that attachment need. Sometimes because of the messages growing up they don’t feel capable of rescuing themselves.

In my experience, trying to be the right person needs to come first. It is when we are no longer desperate in that search for another that we make space for a more stable, healthy other when they come along.

Therapy can help you find and create that space for yourself.