Quote by Rich Kluft
This is one of the things I tell people in therapy the most.
Because even when people enter therapy, there is often some ambivalence, conscious or unconscious, about change.
There is a part that wants to rip the band aid off in one pull but other parts that are terrified, that don’t really want to have to look at the hard things. That is not being ‘resistant,’ to me that is being human. It is hard to face the painful past and make the needed changes.
And if you are a trauma survivor, and especially if you suffer from dissociation, this ambivalence is quite strong. The danger in pushing ahead quickly is that you will get overwhelmed by the trauma, the feelings or the memories.
When this happens, we have to then take time to help re-stabilize you. Then we have to proceed even slower to ensure you don’t get overwhelmed again. Also, there can also be a fear of another overwhelm that leads the work to get even slower.
But if we go at a pace that the most scared part of you can tolerate, then we will get to the healing faster. Don’t lose hope, any progress is positive and takes you that much closer to your goal.