Quote from Disney’s Moana
This is a beautiful sentiment if the people you’ve loved and the things you have learned are healthy.
But if you grew up in an abusive, toxic, neglectful or chaotic home environment these changes are not for the better. When a child grows up in that type of environment, they change their perspective on themselves. They begin to distrust themselves and their perceptions and their experiences. They learn unhealthy coping, to blame themselves for everything. These are powerful experiences that will continue to shape a person unless they get help in untangling the negative messages they have been given from the reality of their lives and experiences.
This can be tough work and often guidance is needed. And I often find that what eventually brings people in, is that quiet voice inside of themselves that knows they are of value and that something is off.