Quote from Esthero’s song Crash
So often when there is trauma it interferes with a person’s ability to hear and see what is actually occurring in the present.
Sometimes this is due to a full-blown flashback in which they lose touch with the present and are fully reliving the past.
Other times it is more subtle, with the past coloring how we hear what is being said, how we interpret the motivations of the other person and what coping strategies we choose to use.
Those coping strategies often worked in the past, when it was a matter of survival, but no longer serve the person in the present.
If you find yourself stuck in a conversation with your past and you want to learn to be more fully present, then EMDR therapy can be a powerful form of therapy to help you do that.