When you’ve experienced attachment or developmental trauma, part of healing is grieving the life you wish you had or how your life might have been if your childhood had been different. It is normal to struggle with the unfairness or injustice of not getting the…

Life and the holidays as a trauma therapist can be wild!

As I deepen my work with chronically ill and disabled folks I am also working to deepen my understanding of ableism and my own internalized ableist learning. One thing I’ve learned and wish to pass on to you today how the polite, getting to know…

This time of year, you hear a lot about gratitude and practicing an attitude of gratitude. I know this can be triggering for some folks, but having a gratitude practice can be very beneficial to one’s health and I want to share why that is.…

When doing work with trauma, we often talk about trauma time. Trauma time refers to how people (or parts/alters) who’ve gone through trauma can get stuck in thinking and reacting as though they are still in that period of their lives when the trauma was…

Time orientation skills involve reminding yourself that you are in the here-and-now, rather than in the there-and-then (i.e. trauma time). The category of comfort refers to reminding yourself of the ways in which you can offer yourself comfort that you couldn’t when you were a…