Over the last few weeks I’ve been going over the different attachment styles and how they are primarily the result of how our caregivers related to us. Attachment styles are not set in stone, they can change, because we change based on our relationship experiences.…

     The messages we get around relationships and abuse in our culture can be so very confusing and harmful. We get bombarded with messages about the importance of family, of staying connected and how we only get one family and how blood is thicker than…

We aren’t talking nearly enough about the current administration is retraumatizing for clients who grew up with emotionally and verbally abusive, gaslighting, authoritarian, or narcissistic caregivers.   When we talk about how hard it is to heal when you are living in the same environment…

Avoidant attachment develops when caregivers are emotionally distant, unavailable/absent, or neglectful. These caregivers are often emotionally misattuned to their children and may be cold, distant, critical or highly focused on achievement. These caregivers do not tolerate emotional expression and expect their child to be independent…

June is national PTSD Awareness month.  For many, the concept of PTSD is linked to military service. The reality however, is that this disorder can affect anyone.  In the US, approximately 6.8% of adults will experience PTSD in their lifetimes, with women twice as likely…

Anxious attachment develops when the caregiver is loving but inconsistent and unpredictable. This can happen if the caregiver has serious mental health or substance abuse issue, when they expect their child to meet their needs, or when the caregiver is overly-intrusive or discourage a child’s…