Gender presentation is the way a person presents themselves to the world in a gendered fashion. As noted above, this may include the type of clothes that they wear, how they wear their hair (style, color, length), how they talk (pitch of their voice), how they walk and how they sit, whether or not they wear jewelry (and type or style) or make-up.
These are ways that people are consciously or unconsciously sending messages to the world about their gender. We make a lot of assumptions about people based on their gender presentation. But what happens when someone is gender non-conforming in the way they present themselves to the world?
Up until relatively recently (the last couple of decades) it was considered gender non-conforming for women to wear pants.
The wearing of kilts by men would be considered gender conforming in Scotland, but not in other countries. Men wearing thawbs in Arabic countries is considered gender conforming, but no in the US.
And then there are folx who identify as non-binary, gender fluid, and others whose presentation may be confusing to others because it is non-conforming or often changes.
All of this is to say, that gender presentation is not stagnant and can vary across eras and time periods. There is nothing sacred or fixed about only women wearing skirts in our society. It is okay for these things to be played with.
And we cannot make assumptions about someone’s gender identity or sexual orientation based on this presentation. It’s okay to be confused by how someone presents themselves, learn to tolerate the unknown because it is not your business to know unless the other person wants you to know. And that’s okay.