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For so many of the folks I work with in therapy shame is an overwhelming part of their lives, and shame is toxic to the soul. Guilt is feeling bad for something you have done whereas shame is feeling bad about who you are. When…

When you have grown up in a situation that was abusive, neglectful or chaotic you learned to survive in that environment. But once you have grown up and gotten out of that situation many of those skills will no longer serve you. And it may…

So many of us are terribly hard on ourselves. I think we believe if we just tried a little bit hard, buckled down a bit more, were more self-critical we could find a way to be better. Sometimes this comes from growing up in an…

Did you know that in order to become a butterfly, that a caterpillar must first literally digest itself? The transformation of the butterfly is one of nature’s most amazing feats, but it is not easy and sounds rather painful doesn’t it? Just like butterflies, when…

Carl Rogers is one of the fathers of humanistic psychology and big proponent of having an unconditional positive regard towards clients. One of the reasons that this quote speaks to me is that it acknowledges the fluidity of human experience. In American culture we tend…

This is why wishing to simply forget the past does not work. If we ignore it or sweep it under the rug, we fail to learn the lesson and it will keep coming back to us in different ways until we learn what it is…