Trauma

I find that when someone fears change or the discomfort that may come from it, then tend to over-focus on this pain and fail to attend to the pain of their current state. This is understandable, whatever pain or discomfort you are currently in is…

Chronic shame is a hallmark of attachment trauma, of emotional misattunement or lack of validation by caretakers. Shame is the belief not just that one has DONE something bad, but one IS bad. We hold shame away from the light because the idea that someone…

Words have power, and being able to speak your truth and tell your story has profound healing potential. In many ways therapy is about giving words to wordless experiences. It is giving others a language to use to describe their experience. By putting things into…

Let’s be honest, talking about parts, or inner children, or ego states can feel rather odd or silly. It can feel a bit too ‘woo-woo’ for folks. Regardless the ideas are meaningful and the practice of working with these parts can be powerful. And I…

Time does not heal all wounds. And not everyone who experiences a traumatic event will develop PTSD. Those who don’t are allowed to speak about their experience, and those they share with are supportive and believe what they have to say. This quote applies to…

I love fantasy novels, when I am not reading a psychology book I like to get lost in worlds of unicorns, mermaids and sorceresses. And I love how this quote from The Last Unicorn encapsulates the love that I hope people can find. For we…