Trauma

As I look around the world, as I look at what is going on locally and nationally, as I look at what is going on with my clients I am heartbroken, and moved and awed, and angered and exhausted. If that is how I am…

Grounding skills help ground us into the reality of the here-and-now. This can be useful if triggers bring us into a past traumatic memory, and can reconnect us to our bodies if we get dissociated, numbed out or frozen. Look around in your current, present…

Other than in situations of danger or personal safety, denying your own experience for the sake of peace and quiet is not usually healthy. Because when you deny your own experience or convictions you are left feeling disquieted. Why do we prioritize the peace and…

Whether you know it or not, sexual violence impacts us all. According to RAINN, every 73 seconds in America someone is sexually assaulted and every 9 minutes that child is a victim. One in six women has been the victim of an attempted or completed…

Our survival strategies of fight, flight, freeze and fawn are controlled by a part of our brain that we sometimes refer to as our reptilian brain. Evolutionarily it has been around for a long time and it is geared towards survival.   This part of…

We all have our dark sides, our shadows, our monsters. This darkness can move us to lash out at others, to hide parts that we were taught were shameful. We all have parts, whether we are ‘whole’ people or those who are actually multiple. And…