Trauma

One of the most important tests of any relationship is how we handle relational rupture, upset or disagreement. Being able to repair that rupture is a powerful way to further develop the relationship. The expectations a person has on how this repair is going to…

This is one of my favorite poems. It speaks to me and my search for meaning in my own life. And this is so much of the work to be done when trauma has occurred, particularly attachment trauma. Kids who grow up in homes where…

People who were abused or grew up in toxic environments have legitimate rage. Sometimes, as children this rage came out onto others and there is guilt and shame for that. But it is important to remember that as children living in those environments, they were…

Often a childhood of abuse and/or neglect can lead a person to feel the need to be liked by everyone. This way of being in the world helped them to survive their childhood. Once into adulthood though, this way of being often does not serve…

Sandra Paulsen is an EMDR therapist who developed a method for healing early life trauma. Here she is talking about attachment trauma and wounding. Children are not born believing that they are shameful, this is a learned attitude. When a child is led to believe…

Interpersonal trauma often comes with shame and keeping secrets. Sometimes this is because a person is raised with the idea that you don’t share family business. But often this simply protects the abuser. Sometimes this silence is due to the fact that when trauma occurs…