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One of the things that makes therapy so powerful is sitting with another and speaking. It never ceases to amaze me how people figure things out as they are talking. Sometimes it is not my brilliance as a therapist, but simply their own mind working…

This is one of my favorite poems. It speaks to me and my search for meaning in my own life. And this is so much of the work to be done when trauma has occurred, particularly attachment trauma. Kids who grow up in homes where…

Part 2 on Cognitive Fitness as resilience, which is the capacity to adapt successfully in the presence of risk and adversity. To be healthy is to be flexible and adapt to demands of each situation. Learn to develop realistic optimism. This is the capacity to…

Often a childhood of abuse and/or neglect can lead a person to feel the need to be liked by everyone. This way of being in the world helped them to survive their childhood. Once into adulthood though, this way of being often does not serve…

Sandra Paulsen is an EMDR therapist who developed a method for healing early life trauma. Here she is talking about attachment trauma and wounding. Children are not born believing that they are shameful, this is a learned attitude. When a child is led to believe…

I think a misconception about resilient people is that they are born that way and just lucked out. But resilient people are created. Each of us can create more resilience within ourselves. It takes deliberate practice to do the things we’ve been reviewing these last…