Maybe it’s time to let the old ways die. The old ways are often learned in childhood – ways to cope, ways to treat people, ways of looking at ourselves and the world. These old ways are only as good as our teachers. When someone grows up and experiences attachment trauma, such as abuse, neglect … [Read more...]

We live in a culture that is all about the quick fix and avoiding pain and suffering. And it is this culture that has led to problems such as the opioid epidemic.  I am not for undue or unnecessary suffering, but sometimes pain is necessary and good. Experiencing pain when we touch a hot stove is … [Read more...]

So many people that I work with have trouble setting boundaries.  It is understandable in many ways. So often they grew up in households where they were not taught, such as in the case of neglectful or chaotic homes. If the adults around you are not providing modeling of how to set boundaries and … [Read more...]

This is a quote from the comedian Hannah Gadsby’s Nannette special, which was a powerful and moving performance. Her point was that the stories we share with one another is the thing that holds the cure to many of life’s ills. I see this daily in my work. When a person can share their story and … [Read more...]