Trauma

As Toni Morrison said, “Anything dead coming back to life hurts.” That is why healing can hurt so much. We have to face and feel the things we have cut off from ourselves or our awareness. But I think sometimes what is lost in this…

10/13 pic  There is more wisdom in your body than in your deepest philosophy. Nietzsche Per Nietzsche, “There is more wisdom in your body than in your deepest philosophy.” And this resonates for me in life and especially in trauma work. And I know this…

Attachment styles are not set in stone, they can change, because we change based on our relationship experiences. Our attachment styles can change based on our lived experience. If you had a secure attachment style from your childhood, but go on to have a series…

Disorganized attachment develops when the caregivers are sources of fear because the child doesn’t know what to expect from their caregivers. They do not know if/when their needs will be met. The child cannot adapt to their caregivers’ behavior because their behavior is unpredictable –…

From Patricia DeYoung’s book on Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame she writes, “Our talking seemed to give some shape to the intense feelings of rage, despair and self-loathing inside her suicidality. Emotions that needed to be heard by a real person. Together we got what…

This quote is from Judith Herman’s Trauma and Recovery: The aftermath of violence from domestic abuse to political terror. “Survivors of complex trauma have had to deal with a greater cumulative number and severity of adverse life events, experience higher baseline levels of psychological pain,…