Trauma

In the work that I do with traumatized folks, I find that there is often a fear of conflict. I think this is something that we learn in our American culture, and that gets heavily reinforced in toxic families. This makes sense, in unhealthy families…

Attachment trauma and wounding can feel like this: Like imposter syndrome, but for your life. It is knowing that anyone taking a look into your life and into your home would see a nice normal family, no visible abuse or harm occurring. And yet you…

From birth we are wired to connect and to turn to our attachment figures for emotional regulation and safety. This is why betrayal trauma is so damaging, at any age. We should be able to rely on our caretakers to be loving and good enough…

I just finished a lovely fantasy novel written by Hannah Whitten, called For the Wolf, and in it the young woman, Red, loses her mother and she says, “I don’t think I can mourn her…I mourn the idea of her, maybe. The gap between what…

On the podcast, Dear White Women (episode 77), Nichole Moss says, “My biggest legacy will hopefully be something I said to someone… Because honestly, if you go through struggles and you don’t share it with people, it will eat you inside. So talk about it…

The holidays are hard for many people. It is inescapable, all of the focus on family at this time of year. It’s in commercials, TV shows, movies, social media, at the grocery store, on the radio, on billboards, in store windows, at the coffee shop,…